Fear is one of the basic and inevitable emotions of the human being and has proved very useful in terms of survival, as it has helped us react to a real threat. For example, it has helped us prepare the muscles to move quickly from the site or has been able to keep us completely still until the threat passes.
Instead, those fears, those psychological terrors that prevent us from taking action and limit us in various ways are what we must learn to manage. Let’s reflect on this.
In this society of haste, the word “happiness” is becoming such an obsession that it is common to find people constantly dissatisfied or experiencing anguish at the word success.
The fear of the verb “to lose” becomes increasingly evident as we enter into social models in which “having” defines “being.” This leads to the development of an absurd fear of not giving the right image that we mistakenly believe we have to give.
We must try to see beyond the supposed imminent loss we imagine and act in spite of fear. In other words: if we recognize that we are afraid, we can avoid living manipulated by him and take the actions that help us to make life and live with fear.
The immense value of doing things even feeling fear
If we hope not to be afraid, we will always delay the behaviors or decision making that would benefit us so much. In addition, expressing aloud questions such as: ” When I am not afraid, I will ” often causes us to adopt other paralyzing excuses such as: ” I am tired “, ” I do not have time ” and ” I think I am sick .” And that definitely does not help us to be brave and take action.
It is difficult to do things with fear, but it is necessary to learn how to do it so as not to live paralyzed, letting it be our desire to escape from our hands.
So that this is not so difficult for us, it is very useful to understand how important it is to do what we have (and want to) do even feeling fear and the benefits that would entail for us. One of them is that our stress levels would be reduced.
If we run from our demons, they will always chase us
It is not about trying not to have fearful thoughts in our mind or doing as they are not, but accepting those “monsters” or what is the same, learning to live with them.
If we accept threatening thoughts, they lose strength. Instead, if we deny them, then we give them the importance and they will persecute us. A
Let us not resist resistance to fear and go through the doors of our little hells to take control of our life, the domain of the mind and the experience of reality.
The fear of the unknown
There is much comment that we are afraid of the unknown, but when we say “unknown” we mean preconceived ideas that we have made of it, that is a known idea. Death, for example, is a fear of a known idea that since childhood they have been programming in our brains.
What really makes us feel fear and restlessness is the idea of losing the known, of running out of everything we own (including life). Hence the anticipatory and threatening thoughts that increase this emotion of fear.
Expressing fears, dialoguing with trusted people, and even doing something creative with them, is one of the best ways we have to learn to live without being persecuted and tormented.
By “communicating” we mean performing different activities, such as writing, singing, painting, creating … Expressing the shadows makes us feel less and less restless. After all, the shadows can also remind us that there is sunlight.
Social fear, our misunderstood belonging
If we spend our lives trying to fit in, we may eventually achieve it and disappear forever. This becomes another of the fears that have instilled us: that need for misunderstood belonging.
The fear of not fitting in, not belonging to a group and disappointing others leads to great self-demand, not realizing our own qualities and making us not take responsibility for ourselves, for our minds. Therefore, we must try to leave social fear behind, even if this is not always easy.